But it's important that he doesn't rely only on you. That is too much to ask for both of you. You can't be expected to be there for every single thing he goes through and he can't be asked to only ever depend on you to help him.
You're going to get wrapped up in your own messes. You're human. You're a teenager. You're going through your first real relationship. And oh yeah, we're in a hellish blood-soaked wasteland that may or may not be trying to kill us.
Not being able to be there for everything Fern struggles with doesn't suddenly mean you stopped loving him or that you stopped caring about him. It doesn't mean that FERN stopped loving you, or caring about you, and wishing to confide in you.
There are going to be things he can't or won't tell you. There are going to be things you can't or won't tell him. It doesn't mean either of you are bad boyfriends. It means that a SINGLE PERSON cannot meet every. single. emotional. need of another being.
And that's not GOING to happen, Varian, not if you want to maintain an actual healthy relationship.
If it's something more serious in the future, and for whatever reason, you don't notice it? Then it's good someone else can help him, that he has more help than just one person. There are going to be times both of you are out of your depths and you won't know what to do. Believe me, I've been there, and believe me, I know how deeply upsetting the thing you're feeling right now is.
For someone who doesn't want ME to take on everyone's problem, you're doing your damndest to take on all of Fern's, Varian.
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But it's important that he doesn't rely only on you. That is too much to ask for both of you. You can't be expected to be there for every single thing he goes through and he can't be asked to only ever depend on you to help him.
You're going to get wrapped up in your own messes. You're human. You're a teenager. You're going through your first real relationship. And oh yeah, we're in a hellish blood-soaked wasteland that may or may not be trying to kill us.
Not being able to be there for everything Fern struggles with doesn't suddenly mean you stopped loving him or that you stopped caring about him. It doesn't mean that FERN stopped loving you, or caring about you, and wishing to confide in you.
There are going to be things he can't or won't tell you. There are going to be things you can't or won't tell him. It doesn't mean either of you are bad boyfriends. It means that a SINGLE PERSON cannot meet every. single. emotional. need of another being.
And that's not GOING to happen, Varian, not if you want to maintain an actual healthy relationship.
If it's something more serious in the future, and for whatever reason, you don't notice it? Then it's good someone else can help him, that he has more help than just one person. There are going to be times both of you are out of your depths and you won't know what to do. Believe me, I've been there, and believe me, I know how deeply upsetting the thing you're feeling right now is.
For someone who doesn't want ME to take on everyone's problem, you're doing your damndest to take on all of Fern's, Varian.